5 things you should have known about the orgasms benefits!

According to JAMA (the Journal of the American Medical Association), 43% of American women suffer from some form of ‘Female Sexual Dysfunction — often placing the blame on themselves for their inability to reach orgasm. Stop blaming yourself. If you are alone, masturbation will help you find what feels right for you. If you have a partner, talk to them. Often the clitoris is under stimulated during sexual intercourse – which is how many women have an orgasm. If you have orgasms from your cervix being stimulated, tell your partner this. (Or, whatever else does it for you).

Orgasms: Relieve tension! The faster heart beat, the increased blood flow and muscular tautness associated with sexual pleasure all come to a relaxing conclusion with an orgasm, and in the process relieve tensions pent up in your nervous system.

Orgasms: Help you sleep better. While an orgasm is followed in the male by a quick drop in blood pressure and sudden relaxation, the effect on women is more progressive but no less important. Orgasms act as a natural tranquilizer. That wonderful release of endorphins is very calming.

Orgasms: Calm your cravings for junk food and sometimes for cigarettes. Sexual stimulation activates the production of phenetylamine, a kind of natural amphetamine that regulates your appetite. So, before you pig-out, maybe go to your room.

Orgasms: Burn calories.

Orgasms: Can work as natural pain management. If you ever noticed forgetting about a headache or menstrual cramps while masturbating or having sex, it is not simply a psychological phenomenon. Endorphins, (natural compounds close to morphine) are released by your body during sex and can increase your tolerance to pain by as much as 70% during orgasm. This will vary from person to person. AND, if you are in the hospital… forget trying this due to the lack of privacy.

SOURCE: http://www.livestrong.com/

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Do women enjoy sex without orgasm?

I usually enjoy sex even without coming, especially since it's so much work to come. If I've recently come, I prefer not coming again, since the stimulation can be uncomfortable. But if I haven't come in a while, I certainly prefer to.

I am used to masturbate since 11. So I have no difficulties to reach orgasm. During my marital sex clit rubbing or my vib are efficient helps to get my release. We are happy with it.

I am a female, mid 40ies, Europe. I masturbate alone and during sex usually. I couldn´t live without self stimulation.

I've known 3 women that didn't orgasm during sex. One women suffered, and felt immense frustration. She'd get close but never orgasm. Another women seemed fine just having sex without orgasm. A third girl really wants to orgasm, but has no clue how to. And feels deficient for not being able to experience orgasm.

I love being together with a partner sexually and I am not anxious about having an orgasm, when it happens, great, and if not fine too. There is so much more to sexual intimacy that I LOVE!!! I can imagine that alone the fact that female orgasm it is a topic contributes to stress and disables women... And the hormones are a factor too. Tell me about it. Some days I am so hot and want to climax, and usually get to, and other days I just don’t want to go there but enjoy the intimacy and sensuality with a beloved partner. I always wonder why everything has to be black or white. Could life offer us rather than an "either or" an "as well as" reality?

Orgasm is not something I receive - my climax - it is something I co create with my partner or myself.

It's best when my boyfriend rubs my clitoris til I come, or until I'm about to come. Then I can enjoy a vaginal orgasm when he penetrates me, and there's no risk of him coming too early.

Intercourse is better for me if my woman has reached an orgasm. I find oral stimulation of her frenulum (where the inner lips meet) and the underside or her clitoris, together with manual penetration of her vagina on the g-spot generally gives her many relatively quick orgasms. Her vagina is then much nicer to be inside as it tightens up and she enjoys further orgasms by my penis.

Really want to enjoy sex with my partner, but I don't. Instead I experience pain, not the enjoyment everyone talks about.

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The Great Blowjob Survey

Over the last six months to a year, I have secretly been working on something. That something is a worldwide survey about every aspect of fellatio. Over the coming weeks I hope to get as much of my findings down as possible on here. Over 10,000 women and 5,000 men were interviewed, their ages ranging from 16 to 54. There was a good cross section of race, religion and culture, as well as a mix of professions from shop assistants and secretaries to doctors and lawyers.

Without going into too much detail, I'll drop a few facts...

Asian women were generally ranked as the most skilled, but the majority of standouts were white.

Black men were listed as the most desired partners to fellate, with Asian men a close second.

Nearly 10% of women listed fellatio as something they enjoyed more than sex.

Statistically, the most skilled fellatrix is white or Asian and aged 22 to 32. She is slightly overweight with a university level education and an interest in art or literature.

SOURCE: http://iteachbjs.blogspot.com/2010/06/great-blowjob-survey.html?zx=a4a02db924aafe4e

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Tell your partner to lie back, propping up his head and shoulders with a pillow, and have him spread his legs slightly. While you're facing the same direction — your back is to his face — lower yourself onto his hardened penis. Put your feet between his legs on the floor or the bed. Take your right hand and place it on his right hip bone and your left hand on the bed next to his left hip bone. Use your hands and feet to move your body up and down on his shaft.

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Sex on the beach

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The Differences Between a Clitoral and a Vaginal Orgasm - Things That Every Man Should Know!

Most men have heard that there are two distinct varieties of orgasms, a clitoral one and a vaginal variety. However, it is not so clear to many men what exactly the differences between the two types of female orgasm actually are.

Clitoral orgasms are by far the more common of the two. Almost every women has her first orgasm while touching her own clitoris. A vaginal orgasm, on the other hand, can be rather uncommon, with many women going through their entire lives never experiencing one.

The two types of female orgasms also feel different, although both are reported to feel extremely pleasurable. Clitoral orgasms are described as very powerful, with all of the pleasure centered on one specific area, the clitoris. These also tend to be less than ten seconds long.

By contrast, a vaginal orgasm is often described as an entire body experience. Rather than having the pleasure emanating from one specific area, a woman experiencing this type of pleasure will usually feel the sensation throughout her entire body. These last much longer than their clitoral counterpart, on average.

Unfortunately, most women will never experience a vaginal climax, largely because they have trained themselves to only feel immense pleasure through clitoral stimulation. Because of its relative rarity, the vaginal orgasm has become an extremely coveted thing among women.

Another advantage that the vaginal orgasm has over the clitoral is that after a woman climaxes from clitoral stimulation, the clitoris becomes extremely sensitive and it can be difficult for a woman to be comfortably stimulated further. Most women are capable of having numerous vaginal orgasms back to back.

At the end of the day, how a woman prefers to come is entirely up to her. To have any sort of immense pleasure, she needs to feel safe, secure, and respected, so be sure to value those virtues above all else.


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Sex basics

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Phone Sex Guide

Believe it or not, there are ways to enjoy sex without actually ‘doing it’! Sexual intercourse is only one of many approaches to taking pleasure in both your and your partner’s sexuality. Often times, intercourse is not even an option: For example, long distance relationships frequently fall victim to losing that sexual spark when faced with a barrier that is hundreds of miles in distance. For this reason, there are alternatives, such as phone sex, that can be an exciting and important way to keep relationships alive.

Do not confuse sex chat lines, through which people pay a fee to be talked through self-stimulation and other fantasies, with phone sex in a relationship. Though it is not unusual for people to use sex chat lines to release their sexual desires, phone sex in a relationship is quite different. It is a time when someone can open themselves up to disclose sexual desires, needs and fantasies to another intimate person whom they like, and that can be quite exciting. During phone sex, partners reveal their most intimate feelings. Phone sex offers a couple the opportunities to divulge into each other’s innermost sensuality when physical contact is not an option.

Phone sex is not the perfect solution to every couple’s sexual desires; however, it can be a fun learning experience that can both help to satisfy one another sexually and open new possibilities. If you have yet to dabble in phone sex, there are a few things you should keep in mind.


Things to Remember

Comfort. Make sure to choose a place to talk in which you feel comfortable. Being comfortable is the first step to great phone sex.
Interruptions. Remove yourself from any possible interruptions. Disruptions are a likely source for ruining the mood.
Time. Try to give yourself open-ended time. You do not want to feel pressured by a time limit. Sometimes it takes certain couples a bit longer to feel comfortable talking to each other sexually, and that is perfectly okay.
Props. Keep anything you plan on using during phone sex nearby. You do not want to put the phone down or stop what you are doing mid way!
Setting. Make your setting warm and sensual. Remember you are choosing the setting, so don’t be afraid to use candles, dim the lighting or whatever turns you on!
Privacy. Sit or lie somewhere private, and do not forget to lock the door!

Tips

Be truthful and open. Tell your partner exactly what type of sexual act you wish he/she was performing on you right now. If you are having trouble knowing where to start, advise your partner how you plan to seduce him/her next time you see each other.
Don’t fake it. Say exactly what you are feeling (or what you want to be feeling!). Sometimes when caught up in the physical activity, you either forget or are embarrassed to tell your partner what you want or what you feel. So, if you tell your partner to use a circular finger motion for clitoral stimulation, describe the new sensations you are feeling while you stimulate yourself.
Be detailed and descriptive. If you want your partner to touch you in a certain spot, tell him/her exactly where. Or if you are touching yourself in a special way, tell this to your partner. This allows your partner’s mind to run wild!
Use your imagination. The great thing about phone sex is that you and your partner can both do whatever you want! Maybe you wish you were in a secret place doing naughty things…tell your partner! If you use a vibrator or another sex toy, pretend your partner is holding it. If you enjoy applying lubricant, imagine that it is actually your partner’s natural juices.
Don’t be afraid to make noises. Sometimes the biggest turn-on is listening to your partner as he or she reaches climax.
SOURCE:http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=pfOSMORE: sexsurvey.blogspot.com

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Therapists Say Good Sexual Intercourse Lasts Minutes, Not Hours

Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.

Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded and rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

The average therapists’ responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from 3-7 minutes; "desirable," from 7-13 minutes; "too short" from 1-2 minutes; and "too long" from 10-30 minutes.

"A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal," the researchers said. “"Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. "

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women, who responded, wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.

"This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction," said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. "With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions."

Corty and Guardiani, then-undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, but the article is currently available online.

The survey’s research also has implications for treatment of people with existing sexual problems.

"If a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counseling, instead of medicine," Corty noted.

SOURCE: http://www.eurekalert.org
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Am I A Sex Addict?

# Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities
from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

# Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations
or with people you would not normally choose?

# Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or
scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

# Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with
your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

# Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after
having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a
sexual encounter?

# Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that
you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you
fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

# Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive
patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

# Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic
activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and
relief?

# Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being
arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism,
prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

# Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere
with your spiritual beliefs or development?

# Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality
of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

# Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling
hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?
SOURCE: http://the-confessions-sex-addict-screener.blogspot.com/
INFO: sexsurvey.blogspot.com

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Tips!!!

Extended foreplay and oral sex can increase exposure to
pheromones, which will increase arousal and strengthen
your erections.

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How to Make Oral Sex More Enjoyable

Spend some time and get your lover excited before making the plunge. Tease her whole body before you head south. When having oral sex with your lover, it's not all about her clitoris. Let your mouth and tongue explore her whole labia, clitoris and vagina.
Slowly lick up her thighs and kiss her vulva. Spread her legs and open her lips with your fingers. Take a look. Tell her how beautiful she looks.

Use your tongue. Your whole tongue. Flatten it out. Use just the tip. Lick her like an ice cream cone. Flick it like a butterfly wings. Use gentle strokes. As her excitement builds, add more pressure. Focus more on the area around her clit.

How to tell if she likes it With your head smashed between her thighs, it may be hard to see what her response is. Feel for the clues. If she raises her hips to meet your lips, that is good. If her vagina gets wet and her vulva swells, she's getting aroused. If she starts moaning and trembling, keep doing what you're doing. Rapid breathing and writhing around are good things. If she grabs your hair and pushes you in for more, things are definitely going well.

Take her clitoris in your mouth. Suck gently. Release. Gentle flicking can send her over the edge.

Use your hands. Place your hands under her butt and gently lift her towards your mouth. Reach up and stroke her nipples. Put a finger in her vagina or her anus. [Note: DO NOT go from her anus to her vagina--you can spread unwanted bacteria.]

Rhythm is the key. Tune in to her responses. All women are different. Have her tell you what she likes and wants more of. Some women love having their clits stroked, others are too sensitive. What turned her on one day, may not work the next. Some love a finger or two or three inside them, others do not. Some women love the feel of a finger in their anus, others jump to the ceiling with a screech.

Communication is necessary for great sex. If you're new to this, or even if you're not, talk to your partner. See what worked, what you might do differently and have fun perfecting your skills!

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Cunnilingus Techniques

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Tips on Female orgasm

* You lie down while he sits or kneels cross-legged beside or in between your legs and applies some personal lubricant to the whole of your vagina and perineum (the part of your body between your vagina and anus). Next he should lightly brush and stroke your genitals but he's not allowed to stimulate the clitoris and inside the vagina. He does this for at least five minutes.
* The stimulation now moves to the clitoris. He should slowly and steadily circle the clitoris with a finger, travelling around it once per second. At the same time, you tell him exactly what pressure and rhythm feels good.
* As he continues to stimulate your clitoris, you start doing your pelvic floor squeezes as you breathe deeply from your stomach. Prepare for your orgasm, because now it gets a bit complicated bit for him.
* As you feel you're about to climax, he should watch and feel for regular two-second contractions in your genital area; this means you're about to orgasm. Once these contractions start, he needs to stop stimulating the clitoris and immediately move to stroking the inner vaginal walls. Using his fingers, he can either push them in and out, or sweep them in circles in and out of the entrance. If he concentrates on the front vaginal wall (the bit underneath your tummy), stroking with his fore and middle finger is another option. Most crucial of all, whichever technique he chooses, the rhythm should be slow and steady.

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Clitoris

The clitoris can become numb from the same kind of
touch over and over again, so vary the touch from the top to either
side. Encourage her to explain what feels good to her and to help you
find different ways to touch her there.

When you gently tease the
clitoris as opposed to pressing firmly, she may end up trembling and
shouting out loud. Also, try tracing the alphabet with your tongue-we
bet she doesn’t make it past N or 0!

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The Art of Kissing

We agree, but kiss her artfully. There is one sure way to
get a woman very, very ready. Women say they can never get
enough of kissing, and here are their definitive descriptions of how
to kiss a woman on the mouth.
Take your time at the lip stage; bite them softly or lick them
gently. Touch the corners of her mouth with your tongue.
Open her mouth gently but firmly with your own. Play with
her tongue, but refrain from sticking yours all the way down
her throat.
Move your jaw a little from side to side and concentrate solely
on her mouth. Don't think about what comes after. Or even
what might not come after. Just that moment. And either look
straight into her eyes, or close yours. Think of England, if you
have to. Just don't think of optometry.

Go with different grades of intensity before heading inside. If
you give love bites, do it carefully. Soft, gentle suction on the
sides of the neck is good, but no woman wants to wear
turtlenecks or elaborately tied scarves for a week

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Sex Techniques

When you've penetrated, don't pump like an industrial
power tool. Build up slowly with straight, regular thrusts.
One ancient thrusting technique is a pattern of nine shallow
and one deep. When you follow this pattern, often the
woman will reach orgasm a lot more quickly, sometimes
two or three times before you ejaculate.

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Afterplay Tehniques

Afterplay Tehniques
If the sheets and blankets have been thrown off of you, reach down and
cover her.

Concentrate on your partner for as long as you can. Don’t just hold her,
but let her know through strokes and gentle words that you’re paying
attention.

Gently rub her calves with your feet.

Pretend that you’re protecting her from the big, wide, evil world. At a
quiet moment like this, she’s likely to pick up your protective vibes,
which will make her feel safe and warm.

Kiss her gently on her cheeks.

Say “I love you.”

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