Phone Sex Guide

Believe it or not, there are ways to enjoy sex without actually ‘doing it’! Sexual intercourse is only one of many approaches to taking pleasure in both your and your partner’s sexuality. Often times, intercourse is not even an option: For example, long distance relationships frequently fall victim to losing that sexual spark when faced with a barrier that is hundreds of miles in distance. For this reason, there are alternatives, such as phone sex, that can be an exciting and important way to keep relationships alive.

Do not confuse sex chat lines, through which people pay a fee to be talked through self-stimulation and other fantasies, with phone sex in a relationship. Though it is not unusual for people to use sex chat lines to release their sexual desires, phone sex in a relationship is quite different. It is a time when someone can open themselves up to disclose sexual desires, needs and fantasies to another intimate person whom they like, and that can be quite exciting. During phone sex, partners reveal their most intimate feelings. Phone sex offers a couple the opportunities to divulge into each other’s innermost sensuality when physical contact is not an option.

Phone sex is not the perfect solution to every couple’s sexual desires; however, it can be a fun learning experience that can both help to satisfy one another sexually and open new possibilities. If you have yet to dabble in phone sex, there are a few things you should keep in mind.


Things to Remember

Comfort. Make sure to choose a place to talk in which you feel comfortable. Being comfortable is the first step to great phone sex.
Interruptions. Remove yourself from any possible interruptions. Disruptions are a likely source for ruining the mood.
Time. Try to give yourself open-ended time. You do not want to feel pressured by a time limit. Sometimes it takes certain couples a bit longer to feel comfortable talking to each other sexually, and that is perfectly okay.
Props. Keep anything you plan on using during phone sex nearby. You do not want to put the phone down or stop what you are doing mid way!
Setting. Make your setting warm and sensual. Remember you are choosing the setting, so don’t be afraid to use candles, dim the lighting or whatever turns you on!
Privacy. Sit or lie somewhere private, and do not forget to lock the door!

Tips

Be truthful and open. Tell your partner exactly what type of sexual act you wish he/she was performing on you right now. If you are having trouble knowing where to start, advise your partner how you plan to seduce him/her next time you see each other.
Don’t fake it. Say exactly what you are feeling (or what you want to be feeling!). Sometimes when caught up in the physical activity, you either forget or are embarrassed to tell your partner what you want or what you feel. So, if you tell your partner to use a circular finger motion for clitoral stimulation, describe the new sensations you are feeling while you stimulate yourself.
Be detailed and descriptive. If you want your partner to touch you in a certain spot, tell him/her exactly where. Or if you are touching yourself in a special way, tell this to your partner. This allows your partner’s mind to run wild!
Use your imagination. The great thing about phone sex is that you and your partner can both do whatever you want! Maybe you wish you were in a secret place doing naughty things…tell your partner! If you use a vibrator or another sex toy, pretend your partner is holding it. If you enjoy applying lubricant, imagine that it is actually your partner’s natural juices.
Don’t be afraid to make noises. Sometimes the biggest turn-on is listening to your partner as he or she reaches climax.
SOURCE:http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=pfOSMORE: sexsurvey.blogspot.com