Sex Advice For Men – How Women Fantasize About Sex

By: Lindsay Bernard
When women fantasize about sex, it’s generally in the form of something akin to a mental daytime soap opera. Compared to men’s fantasies, women’s erotic daydreams tend to be hazier and more romantic, more personal, often focusing specifically one someone they already know. They emphasize touching, feeling and emotions, unfold more slowly and tend to include more caressing and non-genital touching.

Men’s fantasies by contrast, tend to be dominated by visual images, especially genital images, are more likely to involve multiple, often anonymous partners, and are more active and aggressive and move more quickly to explicitly sexual acts.

In other words, the problems we have relating to one another in real life are clearly mirrored in our imaginations.

Nevertheless, though guys fantasize about sex in extremely graphic ways and do so more or less constantly, it’s interesting to remember that it’s women, not men, who are capable of taking fantasies over the top, actually reaching orgasm simply by thinking about sex.

About 1% of the several thousand women in a Shere Hite survey were capable of this astounding feat; in the late Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey’s sample of 8,000 women, about 2% were “orgasm fantasists.” More recently, a team of researchers at Rutgers University in New Brunswick, New Jersey, found ten such women and wired them up to various monitors in a lab. First they were asked to masturbate to orgasm (all ten accomplished this); then to fantasize to orgasm (seven accomplished this). Most interestingly of all, the researchers found that both kinds of orgasms produced very similar physiological changes: a boost in heart rate, systolic blood pressure and pupil diameter and a significant elevation in the woman’s sensitivity to pain.

In other words, though triggered purely by erotic fantasy, these orgasms were just as real as any other kind.

Remember this fact the next time you are in a bar and you notice a beautiful woman that you would like to get to know. Become a fantasy in her mind, read her body language and know when to move in.

SOURCE: GlobalSexSurvey.Net